The dating guide
Writing about the part of dating that most apps skip: fewer conversations, honest intentions, and actually meeting up. Start with the intentional dating guide, then work through the articles below.
Latest · Mindset
Why you feel burned out on dating apps (and what actually helps)
You're not tired of people. You're tired of a slot machine that pays out in maybes.
·7 min read
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Safety
Online dating safety: a checklist for the first meeting
Safety on a first date is mostly logistics decided in advance, while you're calm and nobody's feelings are in the room.
·7 min read
First dates
First date ideas that aren't dinner and a movie
The best first date is an hour long, in public, and can turn into three hours if it's going well. Almost everything else is a design flaw.
·6 min read
Getting started
The seven-day rule: from match to date in one week
A week is long enough to know whether you want to sit across from someone, and short enough that you can't hide in the chat.
·8 min read
Conversation
How to ask someone out without being weird about it
"We should grab something sometime" is not an invitation. It's a request that the other person do the asking for you.
·7 min read
Getting started
How many matches should you talk to at once?
Ten open chats feels like progress. In practice it's ten people getting your worst attention. Here's the arithmetic of a dating queue.
·6 min read
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